Memorial; for those who have Lost Loved Ones!!

** Update ** 2 days after this original post appeared on the MSN Group, my brother Robert James passed away in his sleep between 6am - 7am 7/19/02 1 week before his 41st birthday (perhaps a premonition) Originally written From: ME - - - -  7/17/02 =================================================================== A poem I found on another community I belong to http://groups.msn.com/shystar This is dedicated to all those who  lost loved ones and are still trying to get their lives back in order!! Please know they are watching you and smiling down upon you. They only wish the best for you!! From: REX - - - - 7/10/2002 6:38 AM When I must leave you for a little while, Please don't grieve and shed  your tears, Or hug your sorrow to you through the years.  But start out bravely with a great big smile, and for my sake, and in my name, live on, and do all things the same. Feed not your loneliness on empty days, But fill each working hour in useful ways. Reach out your hand, in comfort and cheer, And I, in return will comfort you and hold you near. And never ever be afraid to die...........For I am waiting for you in the sky!!!   I'm sorry for your loss shy, Maybe this will help you cope I saw it on a headstone where my mom is buried.... peace and love to you and yours..

Life's Questions Unanswered

I walk slowly along the waters edge. Thinking of days gone by, Wondering what will become of the life I am leaving behind. Will they think of me when I'm gone, Will they care that I have left? I can only wonder what their thoughts will be. Will they miss me when they notice I have not been around? Me thinks not. For I am but nothing to them, Does not my tears flow everytime they felt pain? Whose tears will fall for me? Will there even be tears? What has my life meant to them? Have I even made a difference? Have I ever touched a soul or two? All these things to think about as I walk along this lonely path. Wondering what their life would be had they not crossed my path. Have I contributed somewhat to their existance or have I made their life worse? I can feel the water 'neath my toes, so cool and refreshing. The air so crisp and warm. Feels so relaxing. The question remains... Will anyone miss me while I'm gone? Do I take it all away or do I stay to face another day? Why these questions must I ask myself? Why must I wonder these feelings Will I ever feel loved and needed from others or must I love alone? I *sigh* at these questions I ask myself. I should not worry though for one day the truth will shine. But is it a truth I look forward too? Too many questions, so little time. I walk on along the beach, listening to the sounds. They sing to me, they comfort me, they relax me. Maybe my questions will never be answered. But If I leave now I may never get the answers. SO I SHALL STAY YET ANOTHER DAY. Lonely? Perhaps. But at least I'll be able to search what I'm looking for. =================================================================== From: Catherine47 - - - - 7/4/02 Yourpoem it speaks of your inner beauty. A facet of you thats uniquely very special so rare. Asking a question would people remember me, my reply is yes they would this is what I see. You have a endless depth of love. the way you show you care. For in your life such a question gets answered every day. The love you express to others thats the answer to I would say. People as you they touch others like myself profoundly. Leaving in them the best of you, thats your very special style. You take time to make others feel important, so very worth while. So in seeking out the answer its thier inside of you, the gift of yourself to others my sweetest friend thats the real clue. So know as I do others surely too  yes see, the gift you give of yourself to another, is how God intended you to be. For when its all been said been done. This too others will always recall. At the moments when we slip in life, your the first to catch a freinds fall. Sosmile keep on loving thats the beautiful gift within just you.

Magic Of A HUG!

The Magic Of A Hug   Warm and Tender, Gentle and Loving: A simple HUG can do so much. It can soothe a sadden heart, It can tell someone you love their friendship!! The Magic powers of a Hug is so powerful and true. It will shed away your tears and will bring you smiles and cheer You can say how much you really care w/a long Embrace. No words are needed when your arms open wide for that tender Hug. You can touch so many people & change their lives, all with a simple hug.  The magic powers of a Simple Hug can do so much!! Let's Keep on HUGGING!! ===================== It's time we started hugging more and fighting less. Our lives are getting shorter as the days go by. We need to remember that life is special. We need to spread happiness and cheer. We all have our bad days but if we remember to offer hugs more than once a day we'll find that those days don't mean much. It's the loveof all our friends and family that matter most. Let's stop hurting each other with words we don't mean. LOVE&HUGS IS ALL WE NEED TO SURVIVE!! ========================================= From: Catherine47 - - - - 6/24/02 As my sister states hugs express how we care. It takes only two arms and the warmth of a gentle touch, that says I too care. A hug can up lift make some one smile. They feel like they're important truely worth while. So even when chatting say it with ((((((hugs))))) to those you know. Then happiness blossoms as kindness grows. It doesn't cost anyone to say for you I care. Isn't that better then arguments, to show as a family we feel and  sincerely care. ========================================= From: ME - - - - 9/11/02 Words were never more truely spoken then from our hearts. Our wisdom. Let's bring our hearts to the Surface!! ========================================= From: Catherine47 - - - - 9/13/02 Awwwwww gf I sure the way you write. I agree too. Cath ========================================= From: SmokelessBeast - - - - 9/14/02 ((((((((((((ALL)))))))))))) ========================================= From: ME - - - - 3/24/04 Too many times a hug is lost among the kiss. The magic of a kiss seems all but forgotten. The arms that held when times were sad. The arms that held when times were glad. All seem to have disappeared. The touch that felt so comforting and safe. The touch that said of something deeper. When words just wouldn't express the heart. It was the hug; the kiss; the touch, that said the needed words from within its depth. Surely this can't be the future? Where are these needed necessities? The all night hugs that made you feel safe at night? The long passionate kisses that made you feel desirable and loved? Just where were these things that made a person feel whole? Have they really all disappeared? What happened to holding hands in public? Where is the kiss that was something special; not just something you did out of habit? Was this the sign of the ending of love? Is that too gonna disappear? Isn't it the hug, the kiss, being held all night that shows the greatest of love? The eyes don't always see. The heart can't always feel. But the touch is forever. It's the healing of everything that is special. Can any of us really survive without the special hugs, kisses, and touch of love? I honestly don't believe love can survive without any of these! Please: Before it's too late! Hold someone in your arms and give them security. Kiss them to make them feel special. The strongest love there is, comes from the human touch(the hug, the kiss, the holding)! What more can be said? =========================================

A Poem by Cath in earnest too

From: catherine47 - - - - Sent: 6/17/2002 10:14 AM I like to write its how I can express things I feel or want to say. My words are not meant to hurt or offend in any type of way. What is that part of us we keep locked away so tightly inside. Keeping it guraded soemtimes form others we hide. Just a small little piece of us, that maybe at times finds it hard to believe or trust. We won't release showing others it, but maybe sometimes we just must. I guess I'm one of those simple minded people for in this big world I still sorta believe, that theres good in lots of folks to perceive. If we open our eyes to take a look. Aren't we all just the same like a best selling book Theres such an abundance of awesome context within each person it true. Why would I think this well its because your you. I guess to simply state it in my own humble Cath kinda way. I will explain it with these words I say. To be accepting and tolerant to understand. Each persons part of Gods sorta greater plan. People any of us walk through life, wearing our own pair of shoes. In the end its how we all treat other people, its only a choice we ourselves alone can choose. So when making such choices in the end. This little thought im sharing to send. The true beauty in life is such as so. Share kindess and love let that prosper and grow. The richest treasure can only be measured by the way people care. Its the best gift freely given by a heart one wears. So caring here greatly my message now done. Lets keep our chat family strong and loving and loads of fun. So thank you my friends listening some. Caths poems now over alas im done ..

For Lauren my thoughts are with you gf

From: catherine47 - - - - Sent: 6/2/2002 9:41 PM   I think to myself what words can one friend offer too see you through. At this sad time to comfort you. So I look within my own heart to say what it honestly feels. Trying to do it the best I can very real. Its always so very hard losing someone we love when they die. Our heart aches badly we begin to cry. We internally struggle within ourselves, asking that question of why. Did they leave us now so all alone? From this eartly place they once to called home. For that lingering question of the reason why. Well I have within me this only I always know to try. To rely upon my faith trusting in Gods true word. Knowing with quiet reflection prayers never go unheard. This is what in my own heart I honestly percieve. With all that I trust in God I greatly believe. For at any given moment God may call anyone of us with him to be. I think God lessens lifes hardships, as our spirits set free. While we all are sad in pain knowing will greatly miss someone we loved. I'm drawing comfort in knowing thier now in Gods hands above. Smiling back down now at me. I think that they tell me heavens a wonderous place. That they know it firsthand as they have seen now Gods smiling face. Then I think also they want te tell me this to each one of you. They still reside in your hearts to stay thier now too. So if you close your eyes softly looking, to that quiet corner within the depth of your heart. That love lives on it never parts.  By Cath

In Memory Of Lauren's Father who Passed Away this past week

From: (ME) §wêët Hóñë¥ - - - - Sent: 6/1/2002 12:02 PM I am home in heaven dear ones,oh so happy and so bright There is perfect joy and beauty in this ever lasting light All the pain and grief is over, every restless tossing passed I am now at peace forever, safely home in heaven at last! Did you wonder why I so calmly trod the valley of the shade ? Oh,but Jesus' love illuminated every dark and fearful glade And he came himself to meet me in the way so hard to tread And with Jesus' arm to lean on could Ihave one doubt or dread Then you must not grieve so sorely for I love you dearly still Try to look beyond earth's shadows pray to trust our father's will There is work still waiting for you so you must not idly stand Do it now while life remaniyh you shall rest in Jesus' land When that work is all completed he will gently call you home Oh the rapture of that meeting oh the joy to see you come !!!! =================================================================== My deepest Thanks From: LaurenR_1 - - - - Sent: 6/2/2002 1:45 PM To all my friends and family in this room.... I want to Thank You all for your love,sympathy,support and concern for me through this terribly hard time in my life.I am truly grateful for all your kind words,e-mails, phone calls, and the card and gift at the party. It truly made me cry to see such an outpouring of love and care. And I thank you all from the bottom of my heart.   Lauren

What I've Learned in Life

I've Learned ============= I've learned.... That the best classroom in the world is at the feet of an elderly person. I've learned.... That when you're in love, it shows. I've learned.... That just one person saying to me, "You've made my day!" makes my day. I've learned.... That having a child fall asleep in your arms is one of the most peaceful feelings in the world. I've learned.... That being kind is more important than being right. I've learned.... That you should never say no to a gift from a child. I've learned.... That I can always pray for someone when I don't have the strength to help him in some other way. I've learned.... That no matter how serious your life requires you to be, everyone needs a friend to act goofy with. I've learned.... That sometimes all a person needs is a hand to hold and a heart to understand. I've learned.... That simple walks with my father around the block on summer nights when I was a child did wonders for me as an adult. I've learned.... That life is like a roll of toilet paper. The closer it gets to the end, the faster it goes. I've learned.... That we should be glad God doesn't give us everything we ask for. I've learned.... That money doesn't buy class. I've learned.... That it's those small daily happenings that make life so spectacular. I've learned... That under everyone's hard shell is someone who wants to be appreciated and loved. I've learned.... That the Lord didn't do it all in one day. What makes me think I can? I've learned.... That to ignore the facts does not change the facts. I've learned.... That when you plan to get even with someone, you are only letting that person continue to hurt you. I've learned.... That love, not time, heals all wounds. I've learned.... That the easiest way for me to grow as a person is to surround myself with people smarter than I am. I've learned.... That everyone you meet deserves to be greeted with a smile. I've learned.... That there's nothing sweeter than sleeping with your babies and feeling their breath on your cheeks. I've learned.... That no one is perfect until you fall in love with them. I've learned.... That life is tough, but I'm tougher. I've learned.... That opportunities are never lost; someone will take the ones you miss. I've learned.... That when you harbor bitterness, happiness will dock elsewhere. I've learned.... That I wish I could have told my Mom that I loved her one more time before he passed away. I've learned.... That one should keep his words both soft and tender, because tomorrow he may have to eat them. I've learned.... That a smile is an inexpensive way to improve your looks. I've learned.... That I can't choose how I feel, but I can choose what I do about it. I've learned.... That everyone wants to live on top of the mountain, but all the happiness and growth occurs while you're climbing it. I've learned ... That it is best to give advice in only two circumstances; when it is requested and when it is a life threatening situation. I've learned.... That the less time I have to work with, the more things I get done.   Written by navy (navycross; Dutch)

Someone special....

From: brattyKelli - - - - Sent: 5/27/2002 9:45 PM Chatting is one thing, meeting is another... Someone special crossed my path in chat... He has reminded me of the important things in life, and how valueable it is! Consider the things we share with each other publicly and privately, and the trust that is implied. Respect is the key, and flattery of sharing one's most private thoughts is a priviledge of only a few...Happy Chatting!!

Memorial Day

From: catherine47 - - - - Sent: 5/27/2002 1:51 PM On this special Memorial Day, I stop to reflect along the way. To those many men and woman who served our country so best. Fighting for freedom being put to such a courageous test. Many fought with valor, honnor and pride. Many returned home and many too died. Each ones a hero in thier own right. Standing up for freedom serving our country to fight. So in remembering the people who fought too keep freedom alive for you and me. Thier the  the most awesome kind of hero's to be. Thankyou to all of you who have served and kept me  and all of us free. =================================================================== From: Tractor630 - - - - Sent: 5/27/2002 3:18 PM Thanks from us   Tractor

Rules about Men

One for the guys We're always hearing "the rules" from the feminine side. OK - well now hear the guys' side - These are our rules! Please note ... these are all numbered "1" ON PURPOSE! 1. Learn to work the toilet seat. You're a big girl. If it's up, put it down. 1. Birthdays, Valentines, and Anniversaries are not quests to see if we can find the perfect present yet again! 1. Sometimes, we are not thinking about you. Live with it. 1. Do not ask us what we are thinking about unless you are prepared to discuss such topics as navel lint, the shotgun formation, and NASCAR. 1. Sunday = sports. It's like the full moon or the changing of the tides. Let it be. 1. Shopping is NOT a sport, and no, we are never going to think of it that way. 1. When we have to go somewhere, absolutely anything you wear is fine. Really!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 1. Crying is blackmail. 1. Ask for what you want. Let us be clear on this one: Subtle hints do not work. Strong hints do not work. Obvious hints do not work. Just say it! 1. We don't remember dates. Mark birthdays and anniversaries on a calendar. Remind us frequently beforehand. 1. Most guys own three pairs of shoes - tops. What makes you think we'd be any good at choosing which pair, out of thirty, would look good with your dress? 1. Yes and No are perfectly acceptable answers to almost every question. 1. Come to us with a problem only if you want help solving it. That's what we do. Sympathy is what your girlfriends are for. 1. A headache that lasts for 17 months is a problem. See a doctor. 1. Check your oil! Please. 1. Anything we said 6 months ago is inadmissible in an argument. In fact, all comments become null and void after 7 days. 1. If you won't dress like the Victoria's Secret girls, don't expect us to act like soap opera guys. 1. If something we said can be interpreted two ways and one of the ways makes you sad or angry, we meant the other one. 1. You can either ask us to do something or tell us how you want it done - not both. If you already know best how to do it, just do it yourself. 1. Whenever possible, please say whatever you have to say during commercials. 1. Christopher Columbus did not need directions, and neither do we. 1. The relationship is never going to be like it was the first two months we were going out. Get over it. And quit whining to your girlfriends. 1. ALL men see in only 16 colors, like Windows default settings. Peach, for example, is a fruit, not a color. Pumpkin is also a fruit. We have no idea what mauve is. 1. If it itches, it will be scratched. We do that. 1. We are not mind readers and we never will be. Our lack of mind-reading ability is not proof of how little we care about you. 1. If we ask what is wrong and you say "nothing," we will act like nothing's wrong. We know you are lying, but it is just not worth the hassle. 1. I'm in shape. - ROUND is a shape   written by navy (Navycross; Dutch)

My Hero by Cath

From: catherine47 - - - - Sent: 5/25/2002 11:08 AM My hero, someone special, so very dear and near to me. She is unlike any hero that could ever be. She has this incredible inner core of courage, remarkable strength that I have always depended and relied upon. She helped me grow inside so very strong. For a long time ago a serious illness infected her once so. Luekemia's a tough battle, too, she did know. She fought such incredible odds, Over coming them with the greatest of strength. Going the distance such the longest of length. A little small hero I always looked up to. Such courage and strength even today still see's me through. At the lowest of times when life grew difficult, you eased my heart calming my fears. Back long ago then and still now through the years. My littlest hero, your my grown hero today. How I love you the greatest in every single way. For Gods blessed my life greatly with a hero as you. You are the most courageous of heros to me, its so true. Though you know how much I love you, each tear shed and cried. You always kept on going that much harder you tried, to be stronger focused, showing me always the way. As you did way back then, as you do even today.

Online Friendships by cath

From: catherine47(Original Message) - - - - Sent: 5/11/2002 12:08 PM Did you know how some new friendships  can begin to grow. Maybe others don't understand it as you and  I both know. I 've found that these unussual friendships start in a chat room its true. For thats how it began as I simply said hello to you. Did you know when you said hello back asking me, How are you? Where am I from that age, sex , and location lol thing we all do. Then time progresses forward we all became these awesome friends. The kind that care with ours hearts and  that never  I hope end. We talk daily about  this lifes hectic pace. Joke and torrment in fun with such  humerous grace. However really when its all been said and done. To you these special friends I first would choose so to run. I know if im hurting or happy or sad. Grring at msn getting  hot red faced and mad. Your always thier to pick me up. With your aww it will be ok, or to the hey was up. You always go that long extra mile. Did you know your each unique ,such class ,what style, making me happy as I leave the room with a smile. So then how can people that  can't relate, not undertsanding these chat room friendships like we do ever quite then know. For behind each nickname  such caring friendships do grow. Sadly I believe thier missing out greatly too. For online friends as you are far and few. I  think of you all as a family member you see. The kind who are so funny carefree. Real to the point and straight up true. Its how you love with your heart thats the real clue. For you each own a heart  that truly cares.  For I value such friedships  why thier precious and rare. =================================================================== From: (ME) Hèâvën§ £Õvë - - - - Sent: 5/12/2002 10:58 AM  Awwwww Cath That was sooooooooo moving. It touched me deeply......  I would like to add that through good times and bad these friends will come through. When there is a fight among friends it's like fighting with family. Let's remember that no matter what the cause of the fight may be, we are still family. And as a family we should forgive and forget the unkind words that may have been said. For we need each other in order to survive our daily struggles. Please let's remember that LOVE among friends and family is the greatest gift of all. Let's not allow a few hurtful words destroy our chat room family. Let's make up and hug each other!!

one last poem

From: grumpy (Original Message) - - - - Sent: 4/30/2002 9:01 PM happiness is fleeting, it comes and goes too fast. i'm beginning to wonder if true love can last. she broke up with me as a pre-emptive strike. she thought i was dumping her after a minor fight. she must have underestimated just how much i cared. my heart i opened up to her, to her my sould i bared. i had fallen in love with her, and now i'm feeling sorrow. hand in hand i wanted her facing all of life's tomorrows. i gave her my devotion without hesitation. i gave her all my love without reservation. her happiness was my concern she knew just how i felt. all she had to do to me was hold me and i'd melt. i know she was in love with me, i saw it in her eyes. i never questioned her honesty, she never told me lies. but then when things were not so good, and the road of life got rough the tender steak of life we ate suddenly got tough. i was more committed to her than she was to me. but i know its over now, my blinded eyes now see. there's nothing left for me to do, but sit and wonder why. i realize the end has come, i've no more tears to cry. =================================================================== From: ŠẹХΨŠωèéΤhЗã®Τ - - - - Sent: 5/1/2002 1:49 PM I really like this one, even though it is a sad one.....   From Sexy =================================================================== From: Starry - - - - Sent: 5/2/2002 2:33 AM Hi Grumpy!       I must say I was touched my your poem. I could just feel every word as I read it. It makes u think of that "one that got away" and all the feelings involved within yourself. Great job!   Starry =================================================================== From: «Qựέέή◊ß» (ME) - - - - Sent: 5/2/2002 11:02 AM HUGSto my favorite sweet guy. That Poem made me cry. I am sure that your Lady Fair will find you soon.Hang in there Once again yourwill be mended and once again you will find happiness and cheer.Don't let disappointments get you down..... Things will come through for you. I promise this!!! Let the music flow through your veins, the song will soon follow ================================================================== From: catherine47 - - - - Sent: 5/2/2002 5:39 PM Grumpyyour poem speaks of such depth of feeling. You write so beautifully too. Please don't ever stop writing you have a gift. Let the rain fall wash away pain for surely that sun alwaysshines again Cath says.. Love ya too my sweet friend ================================================================== From: grumpy - - - - Sent: 5/3/2002 9:10pm thank you for your words of encouragement. i think i'm done writing for a while. you see, the writing is a reflection of the pain in my heart and soul, but i have since purged myself of all the pain and negativity that i was going thru. writing helped me do that, and now i feel healed and ready to move on with my life. i hold no ill will towards anyone. how could i expect jesus to forgive me of my sins if i don't forgive others the hurt they cause in my life. the only constant i have in life is my love of the lord.